Wednesday, August 30, 2006

Bub in 3D



Who Do You Think I Look Like?
Nenek (Grandma) says I look like Papa
Papa says I look like a grumpy old man

Round Ligament Stretch- wat dat?!

28 Aug 06 - 27 weeks

Pregnant + Moving House = Ligament Stretch.

Simple equation. A pregnant woman should not be overzealously doing housework or carrying heavy stuff. Unless she's a stubborn pregnant woman who tells people "Dont worry, I'm pregnant not disabled". Like me.

Remember I said the little niggles were getting to me (aka pelvic pressure)? Well, the actual term my gynae used when I saw him 2 days ago was "Round Ligament Strech" which means as the uterus grows bigger to accommodate the baby, the surrounding ligament gets pulled making simple walking, standing up, rolling over in bed and carrying a laundry bag a painful task. Shooting pain will affect either 1 or both sides of the pelvic bone, which I felt deep in the groin (around the ovaries). The good news is that its not serious, the bad news is it stays with you throughout the pregnancy. At first I thought it had to do with my womb 'dropping' but my gynae assured me otherwise. The ligament stretch has nothing to do with the baby's position, more to do with Mum's daily activities. If she walks, turns and carries things like Superwoman, she'll be more susceptible to ligament stretch. The solution: take things easy, put your feet up whenever possible and put a cold/warm press to the affected area.

A visit to your gynae is also important since he/she has to rule out SPD which is a serious condition. Same symptoms but ligament hurts even when you're resting. SPD will affect your ability to give birth naturally.

If you are experiencing this, read up at the following websites:

http://www.babycenter.com/refcap/pregnancy/prenatalhealth/205.html

http://www.womenshealthcaretopics.com/roundligamentpain.htm

http://www.babies.sutterhealth.org/during/preg_discomforts.html#25

Last check revealed a healthy 1kg bub, Doc says its 'very normal' but I'm worried she may be big since my baby book says at 28 weeks, baby should be around 700g. No wonder I get so tired after climbing up the overhead bridge. I'm carrying a sack of potatoes inside my belly! I've only gained 5kg so far and no water retention which means I look normal. Hafidz says from the back, no one would be able to tell I'm preggers. Her kicks and punches are very distinct now, most times my belly shifts suddenly from the tapdance routine or punches. Its really fun to just lie down and watch her in action, which usually starts from 9pm onwards.

(Excerpt from Childbirth Solutions)
Week 27

Mother:
You may begin to put on weight more quickly now, but don't let that faze you. Keep eating a healthy diet and the pounds will take care of themselves, paying off in a healthy baby with a healthy mommy. Some shortness of breath can be expected as the growing baby pushes up, crowding your lungs. Most accidental falls during pregnancy cause no problems, due to the superior cushion the amniotic fluid provides. You should, however, call your care provider if you fall and then notice a sudden discharge of fluid from the vagina or severe abdominal pain.

Baby:
Those beautiful baby eyes can open now, and the baby will notice and turn her head if you shine hold a flashlight against your belly. The baby's skin is very wrinkled right now due to the fact that the skin grows faster that the fat layer underneath it. They won't really even up for a while after birth. The retina at the back of your baby's eyes is beginning to develop. Brain wave recordings show rapid eye movement now. The hair follicles on the skin are just now forming. Blood flows through the umbilical cord and through the baby's body within 30 seconds, traveling at 4 mph.

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BTW: Angela, congrats babe on being pregnant!!! I was completely shocked when you told me but so very very happy for you. I'll try to add in more details of my pregnancy experience in my posts, like you asked, so you can compare your experience and mine. As they say, 2 pregnancies are never alike!

Sunday, August 27, 2006

Next on the Shopping List- Our Very Own Apartment!

What with baby coming, we thought we'd be more comfortable living in our own space. So we went hunting for our own (HDB) aparment with a few set pre-requisites in mind: a) has to be walking distance from an MRT station b) has to be a new neighbourhood c) has to be in the North end of this tiny island where both sets of grandparents reside d) has to be on a high floor and airy and e) do not need full renovation. We probably looked at 30-odd houses before we made up our minds. Thank goodness Hafidz & I agreed on that 1 dream apartment, unlike our tussle with baby names. It was slightly beyond our budget but it fulfilled all criteria to a T. We decided it was worth the extra and signed the 7million papers the (unfriendly but efficient) HDB officer placed in front of us. At the end of the 2nd appointment, Hafidz & I thought we'd somehow be declared bankrupt and be sent to the poorhouse.

So now 26 weeks pregnant, we are frantically trying to posh up the house for our impending move. Furniture to be bought, electrical appliances to be installed, walls to be puttied and sandpapered and painted, toilets to be cleaned... the list goes on.

My advise to future brides and grooms, "waste not want not"... once you've signed the marriage papers, there's no stopping your bank account from bleeding.

Friday, August 25, 2006

Great reads!

Birthplan, Pre-eclampsia, Gestational Diabetes, Braxton-Hicks contractions.... foreign medical terms that make me go "huh?". To avoid looking like a complete fool and more of a well-informed mum in the gynae's office, I would like to share these books, magazines and websites that offer a mass of information:


BIRTH SOLUTIONS
http://www.childbirthsolutions.com/
Look at 'Pregnancy' section. This portion looks at week-by-week development of Mum & Bub. I love the sense of empowerment- I have a rough idea of what will happen to my body next week and I can imagine the development taking place in my little princess this week. It also has articles like "What to take to the Hospital" or explanatory brochures on gestational diabetes and pre-eclampsia.


PREGNANCY & BIRTH magazine (Australia edition)
Fantastic read- light, cheerful and informative. My favourite pregnancy magazine- articles on everything including diaries of different pregnant women, in her own words detailing trimester 1 through birth, in every edition. Makes me feel less alienated knowing that other women go through the exact same process and actually turn out alright!!! I have subscription details and samples to loan to anyone interested.


NIKAH.COM
http://www.nikah.com/muslim-marriage/content/muslim_baby_boy_girl_names.asp
...and the fun begins! Choosing baby names is possibly the most tedious thing to do between a couple. I have favourite names in mind from when I was a single 18 year old, all of which was shot down by my husband in a matter of minutes. "Sofie" was too old fashioned; "Najah" sounded like 'gajah' (Malay for elephant); "Hannah" was a 'mina' sounding name. AAARRGGGHHH!!! In return he offers me names like "Najla" which I said was too ugly sounding and "Ghaniah" which sounded like a boy's name. Happy arguing!

Warning: Do not trust 1 source only, if you like a name check out its meaning on several websites and books. Some of these websites allow the public to upload a name and its accompanying meaning, which may turn out inaccurate.

Other sites that offer great array of Muslim Baby Names:
http://islam.about.com/gi/dynamic/offsite.htm?zi=1/XJ&sdn=islam&zu=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.muslim-names.co.uk%2F

http://www.babynology.com/muslim/


CHICAGO CONSCIOUS CHOICE
http://www.consciouschoice.com/1995-98/cc093/hmd093.html
This isn't a pregnancy website but for an MVP sufferer like me, it helps to understand why in heaven do I feel so breathless sometimes and feels like I'm close to passing out at others.
see also:
http://www.nursing.wright.edu/practice/mvp/default.htm

Will keep adding more...!

Monday, August 21, 2006

25 weeks and counting..

16 Aug 06 - 25 weeks
Small niggles starting to get to me.

1) My MVP (mitral valve prolapse- where chambers of my heart don't close properly allowing leakage of deoxygenated blood backwards into the oxygenated chamber) is getting worse as the gynae predicted. I'm often breathless, particularly at night, when I'm lying down horizontal. Nothing can be done really so I just have to put up with it. Hafidz gives me slow back massages to relax me but it doesn't really help. Lying on my left makes breathing easier but baby hates it and will start kicking me vigorously asking me to move.

2) Pelvic pressure sometimes causing an unnoticeable limp in my walk because the baby's head is pressing on my sciatic nerve. When I stand up, there is a shooting pain in my pelvis and I have to move slowly to accommodate the pain. My nightly oil massages to push the baby's head upwards sometimes lessens the pain and friends have advised for me to go to a neonatal masseuse to ask her to 'push up' the womb.

Other than that, things are going great. The baby is kicking more vigorously and my baby book says that she is now red and wrinkled and is starting to lay fat under her skin. She responds to bright lights and when I sing, she stops kicking and listens to my voice. She also loves to curl up which means sometimes my belly would appear lopsided cos she's curled into a ball at one end of the womb- which is also very painful by the way.

The linea nigra (dark line between the belly button and the pelvis) has shown up and my baby book says this is the time when stretch marks start to appear (eeekkk!!!!) so I've fanatically rubbed my belly with all manner of lotions and oils to make it more elastic.

Still no cravings (thank god), but love all things sweet- chocolates, ice cream and the like. Gestational diabetes appears at this stage too, so I have to watch my diet. Eating a lot more too, always hungry- I don't think I'll be fasting this Ramadhan which is in 3 weeks time.

I've started on Anmum milk since now is the stage where EPA and DHA is needed to form the baby's brain.

Oh, and the 3D scan last week showed a chubby 900g bub with daddy's facial profile. Even my mom says so. At some point, I'll put up her 3D picture online and you can decide for yourself. Ok, here I am in the office... its 5pm and I'm positively starving!!! Off I go for a snack of fruits...ciao!

Monday, August 14, 2006

Tioman Island, Malaysia


The MOST relaxing holiday I've had in years. No museums, no historical sights, no relatives to visit, no itinerary, no traffic, no foreign language to grapple with... just white sand and blue sea available any time of day.

Friday, August 11, 2006

We're Pregnant!?!

I'm 25 week pregnant by now, which means I'm in the middle of 2nd trimester- the 'honeymoon' period as my gynaecologist calls it. Let's see how this journey started:



11 Sep 05
We tie the knot after 9 years 2 months of courtship and a friendship that spans 20 years.

22 Feb 06
My husband, Hafidz, comes back from filming in Ipoh, Malaysia after a week away. It's so great to see him!

9-17 Mar 06
Sick as a puppy. 4 days went by in a blur- doctor says its a virus. I've just came back from Hanoi and Ho Chi Minh for the filming of our BBC documentary 'Vietnam Psychics' where bird flu is prevalent and doctors want my blood sample to ascertain that its not anything serious. I insist on a pregnancy test- it came back negative. Was expecting that anyway since I have PCO (polycystic ovarian syndrome) and my gynaecologist has suggested a fertility treatment to get pregnant.

24 Mar 06
2 weeks and still flu-ish. Blood test reveals nothing. I insist on another urine test even though the doctor says that my symptoms do not point to pregnancy. This time, its 2 red lines. POSITIVE! Hafidz was waiting for me at the clinic, I go over to him, kiss him on the lips and whisper "Congratulations, you're going to be a father". He opened his mouth but nothing came out. If a picture was worth a million words, he didn't really need to say anything.

28 Mar 06 - 5.5 weeks
At the gynae's! She says its 5 and half weeks old. We're ecstatic when the scanning began and there was heartbeat! It's just a shapeless lump really. The gynae pointed to a sac and a yolk, making me feel like a mother hen. She says that PCO patients usually conceive unexpectedly and that mine was probably a mild case of PCO anyway.

Its a secret between Hafidz and I still. We give each other secret looks and giggles all the time asking each other "how did this happen so quickly?!" but feeling very very happy indeed.

We gave up our car last week, thinking we'd save up for our house, but now there's an unplanned gift coming and the nausea makes me wish we still had the car. Standing for too long will make me feel sickly, worse when I have to get on the train to ferry to and from work. My taxi bill this month hits the roof.

17 Apr 06 - 8.5 weeks
Another visit to the gynae's! It's grown to a good 5cm now and the heartbeat sounded like a horse's pounding away. It also keep bumping its arm on its head- maybe due to the noise we were making.

We call it 'Astronaut' for now, due to its big head and small body. Nuchal fold reveals normal development, gynae says no threat of Down's Syndrome. I'm always lethargic and the nausea has really kicked in. I can't go hungry otherwise I start retching so I've bought muesli bars and kept them handy in my bag. I have to sit every so often and munch on something to keep the nausea at bay. For the first time ever, I felt so tired after getting dressed to go to work in the morning that I curled up in bed and went back to sleep. Gynae expects this to last til around Week 14 before I start to feel normal again. That's another 6 weeks of feeling flu-ey!!!

I've told some close friends. Sapna & Anil came to meet us with roses and a pair of diamond and pearl earrings for me. I've made them godparents too.

30 May 06 - 14.5 weeks
Astronaut is now 9cm and already moving. But we can only see it on the monitor during a scan, I can't feel anything. I can only stomach fast food so its been Mac's or BK or KFC for me for lunch everyday. Gynae has given a go-ahead for our Tioman Island trip next week. I need the short break to laze around.

2-8 Jun 06 - 15.5 weeks
Caught a glimpse of a Pontianak in Tioman but nothing scary. Other than that it was like being in Paradise! I totally enjoyed myself there, wading in the ocean and snorkelling amongst the marine fishes. Its been a long time since I went on a proper holiday, lately I only travel for work. My bump is starting to show- my tankini has gone a tad tight and some bottoms are impossible to squeeze into. Also, the nausea has tapered off but I hate the smell of fish, especially grilled mackerel. Almost killed me when the chalet people grilled some mackerel for us to feast on. I kept wanting to retch all the way through dinner which wasn't polite at all.

21 Jun 06 - 17.5 weeks
Went to gynae alone- so sad. Hafidz had work commitments he couldn't get out off but I can't expect him to accompany me on every trip. Ah well, might as well get used to it. Astronaut is 11cm already and sleeping during the scan. Gynae has a strong feeling that its a baby girl but told me to wait for 20th week scan for a confirmation. Had to do a blood test to determine any abnormalities like Down Syndrome etc. I'm also starting to feel normal again. YEAY! No more nausea or retching!!!

17 Jul 06 - 21 weeks
Had my compulsory detailed 20th week scan at Thomson Medical Hospital. Alone. I was nervous ALL morning, hoping and praying that everything will turn out ok. After 2 hours of detailed scanning, the sonographer told me that everything looks fine and that Astronaut is growing according to plan. All the major organs are developing well and all the physical developments are perfect. Does it mean I can go shop for baby stuff now?

And yes, a little princess it is for us!! I texted Hafidz and he texted me back saying 'Let's name our little princess ARISSA ABDUL HAFIDZ". I like the sound of it. My best friend, Fidza, who lives in KL was the one who suggested it last week.